So I was just in a situation last night where I was staying at place where there was a heated debate going on. it was after 1am in the morning. his wife, asked us to keep it down a bit because we got noisy, as i said, heated debate.
About 10 minutes later a knock on the door…it was the person below the apartment that came up to tell us that were being too loud cause they could hear us through the windows. this is where it gets interesting. the guy that came up said, \”i dont know where you people come from but here we dont make noise after 1am in the morning\” the man of the house apologized and then told him to go on back to his place, then they guy said, \”dont make me f****** come back up here again\” in which the man of the house said, you want to take this outside now, cause this is about to get ugly…the guy backed down though the man\’s wife was saying to her husband in front of this guy, you\’re being too mean, stop it..etc. He told her to go back inside in which she did…the guy then left after I told him to turn and leave now. After the door shut the wife wanted her husband to go and apologize to the guy after, in which he said, no not gonna happen, not after he said \”dont make me f******* come back up here\”
Now, I had to write this out to make a point, while you are discussing security issues with your lady, make sure she understands that when you step in she either steps down and you take care of the situation or has your back 100% during said situation, where you show solidarity. (preferably she has your back) if she does not agree with your methods then she can voice this after the situation is over behind closed doors. what you do not want is you trying to resolve an issue and she at the same time telling you what to and what not to do. This does not show solidairty.