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A few months ago in this group, I mentioned that I noticed a rise in Black women going for the creamy crack.. now, I can report that I am seeing an increase in other “aesthetic changes”. Skin lightening, relaxing the edges but keeping the rest of hair natural, weaves, inappropriate clothing, cussing, doing work on their body, and only interested in “the bag”.
Now I can’t front, I am always happy to see fellow Black women get coin.. after all that we’ve been through, we deserve it and more! This is the one slight exception on the list.
As for everything else, thanks to the media, I fear that Black women are fitting into the box that eurasians want them to be in, so they can turn around and say “see, I told you Black women are like that”.
Also I think on a deeper level, this gives a lot of our sistas a feeling of acceptance and finally being noticed. How many stories have you heard of a Black woman not being noticed in a job unless she straightens her hair?
I don’t blame us for wanting to be noticed and be respected, but with changes one has to make to get said respect, is it worth it? And what of the young sistas in the upcoming generations??Just some thoughts. This runs through my mind daily.
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This desire for many Afrikan women to fit into a Eurasian aesthetic has made its’ way to the continent. Thanks to AmeriCRACKA media and ‘entertainment’ poison you see these things not only here, but there as well. Unfortunately, a lot of Afrikan men seem to prefer the look you mentioned above because they too are also mentally sick with their own desire to have ‘preferences’ who are imitating Eurasian ‘beauty’ if not flat out wanting an actual Eurasian. Our ppl are sick in the heads! Not to be so negative. -
I think the Afrikan women that can break free of this toxic mentality are 1.) already on their way and/or 2.) can be uplifted and motivated by the strength of those very women already foraging the path for her fellow sisters. The province I live in has a relatively low population compared to most, and just a few years ago, I had read a message posted on a city forum of a lady asking where in the city she could get her hair set into dreadlocks.
It was heartwarming to think that maybe….just maybe, she was encouraged to follow through the natural hair journey by the growing number of other women around her that she saw on a daily basis…going about their day, working, living life, not letting the concept of possibly being overlooked for jobs stop them from moving forward their way.
Once again, in the end, I think the ones that can break free of that toxic mentality have begun to do so, or will eventually break free being encouraged by the once already on the path….and the ones who might not be strong enough to free their mind (sadly) might be too far gone and will just live that way forever — you can’t help them all, but continuing to be strong, proud, and live through Afrikan principles…and more will follow.
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Poignantly said dada. You are right. We must continue on our journey for we never know who is watching and who in turn will be inspired to make changes.
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Well said indeed!! It is hard to be the first to go on a different path in our families because we have no one supporting us.. but as you rightfully said, you never know who you might impact. Beautiful words.
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